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Have you heard some married couples complain after marriage, that their spouse hardly gift them or give them money? Have you also wondered why such thing is happening and why are wives complaining more? This happens to be what most women are currently experiencing in their marriages. A survey was carried out and some of this women complaining about this issue confirmed that it wasn’t like that during their days of dating/courting. Then what changed?

 How can a man be comfortable giving outsiders, friends money while your wife has a pressing need for weeks yet to be sorted out. Some even go to the extent of not allowing them to work, cutting off every channel/means they can make money. Before you give your wife money, you ask her to explain, give you details on what they need the money for while others get more from you even without explaining what the money is meant for.

What of gifts… in fact that’s gist for another day. Some don’t get to receive gifts even on special, they end up getting excuses like ‘they don’t like such celebrations’ but Oga you celebrated it with someone else.

A survey was also carried out on married men but only few complained about money and gifts, some lamented how a woman can’t even give you a dime from her pockets. One said he has been married for 10yrs and he is yet to receive a single gift from his wife but whenever any of her family members or friends are celebrating something she must gift them.

 I have said this countless times, see your partners as yourself, whatever you know will make partner happy as far as it’s not something that harm another do it. It takes nothing from you to put smile on your partner’s face. Celebrate them, gift them not only on their birthdays, anniversary of valentine day.

Some of this men did not even see not giving their wives money all the time as anything. They feel they don’t need it as far as they are with them, they can’t lack anything. Please o women have needs too, you provide for everything in the house no doubt but once in a while give your wives money. Don’t even wait for them to ask before giving them

 For the women learn how to spend on your husbands too, be supportive, know when they have and when they don’t.

Remember I am a psychologist, if you need counseling or guideline regarding your marriage click on this website https://aldubycounseling.com to book appointment

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