Life and Marriage

Life is full of ups and downs same with marriages. Let me take you down memory lane, ask yourself all through your life have things moved smoothly just the way you want it?, how many obstacles have you experience till date and how many more do you think you will experience in future. This is to say life itself is not easy.

Look, marriage is a formal union, social and legal contract between two individuals that unites lives legally, economically and emotionally. This automatically makes you both ‘ONE’. Will there be obstacles? Capital YES, will it go smoothly? Capital NO.

For marriage to be enjoyed and last you need to carry each other along,

Forgive when being wronged.
Communicate often.
Give room for change.
Make sure your marriage is your first priority.
Teach your partner how to love you if you’re not loved the way you want.
There shouldn’t be rules regarding how and when to have sex.
Always be transparent to your partner.

There are no rules regarding how to achieve a successful marriage but this can stand as a guideline. There are also so many guidelines but believe me the best guideline anyone can use is knowing what works for your marriage and partner and flow with it.

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